Fear thrives on fear. One gets scared only when he or she wants to be scared. As a kid, it’s only when you imagine a monster under the bed or in the dark corner of the room that you get scared of it. It’s amazing that as soon as you stop imagining those monsters, fears fail to find a way to pin you. It’s only when you fear a failure that a fear of failure starts keeping you tense, It’s only when you are scared of losing something precious that you always fear that you might lose it. It’s only when you are scared it might go wrong that you keep fearing that indeed could go wrong.
And as long as they last, fears play great havoc. They say in physics that for every action there is an equal reaction. But fears throw this law out of window; suddenly reactions are bigger and bitter. You are suddenly alert to even most irrelevant and insignificant detail. Your life hinges on anything and everything, priorities are beaten up beyond recognition. And life becomes a constant race that you are destined to lose because fear has a way to catch up with you, wherever you go, wherever you hide. And as you keep losing the race, fear starts taking a more scary form which makes you feel chained and then you start doing its bidding. Unknowingly you start destroying everything because you believe this is the only way to get rid of them.
I have tried sometimes to look the other way, try tricking fears by ignoring them, hoping that moment you refuse to acknowledge their presence they would just fade away like they never existed. But this approach has never known to succeed, because you can’t wish away their existence by just closing your eyes, sooner or later they would slip onto your side and face you and then you would just be more scared than before.

So trick lies in facing the fears. But as you start fighting the fears, they come back with equal ferocity, you try and reason with them but they won’t listen. You try punching them and they would punch you back harder. You try finding a way out and they would always reach before you to block the door. And that’s when you need your confidence the most, because the moment you tell yourself that I’ll take care come what may, suddenly clouds of fear are blown away and light of calm and control find its way to you. If something is precious, all you got to say is no matter what I will hold on and then you would no more be scared of losing it., the very day that little kid decide to look under the bed with confidence…monsters just take the nearest window out. Fear takes control only when we let go of the control. It’s only when I shrug my shoulders in helplessness and say “what would I do if this happen” that fears start scaring me with terrible scenarios. It’s only when you let your confidence be shaken by apprehensions that fears find their opening to get into your mind. The day “what if” in our thoughts get replaced by “whatever” it just becomes too simple. The day I face my fears with my supreme confidence in myself, fear accept defeat and bow out.
It’s easy to blame life for scaring you, but fact is we scare ourselves. No one drives us into a corner, we ourselves get into the corner and then complain that we have no way out. There isn’t any monster under the bed waiting to snatch what we want to keep close, monster is in our mind and all we need to do to drive it away is to retain our faith in us.