Discussions over onion rings and french fries are often just like the eatables – spicy but junk. And usually once you have had your fill, you leave those topics on the table with coke cups and used tissues to be put into trash bin by the service boy later.
But in present days when even much-maligned McD have included fresh salad and corn in their menu, once in a while you may just find some interesting cue during those gupshups at the fast food outlets.
Well, last evening while all of us minus Jayesh were taking a snacks break, topic of discussion somehow turned to love.
Now, I seriously feel sympathetic for this four letter word …..it’s easily the most abused word in any of the contemporary languages or to put it in another way I guess it’s the most abused notion irrespective of the language.
First of all, the word has been almost hijacked by a particular relationship so if you love your parents or siblings, well take a walk….that won’t count as love at all. After all, that way everyone love someone …..try understand what we are talking about dude !!!
And well whoever said, you find love only once in lifetime…he was definitely wrong, people here fall in love every quarter and they even show robust growth in volume of “I love you” said quarter on quarter.
But to be frank these guys are not what I wanted to write about. I know they are fools and well I guess they know it themselves that they are just fooling around.
Let’s turn to people who believe they are in love as in the highest and purest sense of the word. Hmmm, People say you just fall in love, it happens by chance or it just happens. A romantic idea I must say, lotta movies have made lot of money cashing in on this idea just like few others have made money showing that there are trains that leave every summer for school of wizardry.
But in present days when even much-maligned McD have included fresh salad and corn in their menu, once in a while you may just find some interesting cue during those gupshups at the fast food outlets.
Well, last evening while all of us minus Jayesh were taking a snacks break, topic of discussion somehow turned to love.
Now, I seriously feel sympathetic for this four letter word …..it’s easily the most abused word in any of the contemporary languages or to put it in another way I guess it’s the most abused notion irrespective of the language.
First of all, the word has been almost hijacked by a particular relationship so if you love your parents or siblings, well take a walk….that won’t count as love at all. After all, that way everyone love someone …..try understand what we are talking about dude !!!
And well whoever said, you find love only once in lifetime…he was definitely wrong, people here fall in love every quarter and they even show robust growth in volume of “I love you” said quarter on quarter.
But to be frank these guys are not what I wanted to write about. I know they are fools and well I guess they know it themselves that they are just fooling around.
Let’s turn to people who believe they are in love as in the highest and purest sense of the word. Hmmm, People say you just fall in love, it happens by chance or it just happens. A romantic idea I must say, lotta movies have made lot of money cashing in on this idea just like few others have made money showing that there are trains that leave every summer for school of wizardry.
But does everyone really fall in love or do lot of them just convince themselves that they are in love?
Now before anyone accuse me of being a non-believer etc, let me clarify I definitely believe in existence of love. Anyone who needs a proof whether love exist or not, my advise to him is just go and look at a mother with her child. That’s love in its purest and highest form and to me that’s an inarguable proof of love. And given that love exists therefore there can be no denying that there can be other form of relationships full of love and affection.
But I still get the impression that there are times when people just get carried away by grand ideas of love and start believing that they are in love even if they are not. To be frank it’s not difficult to convince oneself of a particular state of mind, a good looking guy or girl who can talk well is a reasonable reason for you to feel sure that you want to spend your entire life with her. You might rue it later (and that explains fate of so many love affairs) but at that point of time you just can’t see anything else. But don’t love affairs last years, well they can but then where am I saying that you have convinced yourself of something wrong. All I am saying is, isn’t it possible that people just condition themselves to believe they are in love. In the process, they may just get the best guy or girl for themselves but that was just incidental. Look at what am explaining as a phsychological process, it's an effort by one's subconcious to make him/her conscious about their being in love. And guess people work themselves into such a state. They play their own doctor, look for known symptoms and then somehow interpret something or other to be those symptoms and make a diagnosis that they have fallen in love and then start treating themselves as patients. And ask any doctor, half the people pay for the medicines not because they are suffering from any illness but because they 'believe' they are suffering from something.
I repeat again that I am not denying here possibility of love in its true sense. But am just exploring why suddenly everyone around you is falling in love. It’s definitely not the weather, is it?
It’s like people who have just started drinking, well they have heard that you get high when you drink. So once they start drinking, just after first peg …they start thinking they are getting high even though they may be in their most alert state of mind ever. That’s what power of mind is. I can be what I want to be. And somehow the grand notions that come with love make everyone believe that this is an experience that they must have and therefore, bit of attraction coupled with some sweet words is often trigger to “I guess Iam in love” syndrome…but it’s not that simple. Because people just don’t mistake themselves to be in love, they convince themselves that they are. And therefore they enjoy the state just like someone actually in love would or feel the pain of break up in exactly the same way. They have to, they must feel the pain or feel happy because how else will they feel convinced that they are/were in love.
Is it good or bad? Well, I don’t know. Am not sitting here and passing a judgment. All am trying to say is that while God might have created love so that people just chance upon it and fall in love, we are just pushing ourselves to take a fall…..if falling is still fun…Good Luck !!!
-sid
Song recommendation of the day:
Just keeping with the mood, here’s this beautiful song from Jogger’s Park
Ishq hota nahin, sabhi ke liye…
Ye bana hain, ye bana hain…..kisi kisi ke liye…………
But I still get the impression that there are times when people just get carried away by grand ideas of love and start believing that they are in love even if they are not. To be frank it’s not difficult to convince oneself of a particular state of mind, a good looking guy or girl who can talk well is a reasonable reason for you to feel sure that you want to spend your entire life with her. You might rue it later (and that explains fate of so many love affairs) but at that point of time you just can’t see anything else. But don’t love affairs last years, well they can but then where am I saying that you have convinced yourself of something wrong. All I am saying is, isn’t it possible that people just condition themselves to believe they are in love. In the process, they may just get the best guy or girl for themselves but that was just incidental. Look at what am explaining as a phsychological process, it's an effort by one's subconcious to make him/her conscious about their being in love. And guess people work themselves into such a state. They play their own doctor, look for known symptoms and then somehow interpret something or other to be those symptoms and make a diagnosis that they have fallen in love and then start treating themselves as patients. And ask any doctor, half the people pay for the medicines not because they are suffering from any illness but because they 'believe' they are suffering from something.
I repeat again that I am not denying here possibility of love in its true sense. But am just exploring why suddenly everyone around you is falling in love. It’s definitely not the weather, is it?
It’s like people who have just started drinking, well they have heard that you get high when you drink. So once they start drinking, just after first peg …they start thinking they are getting high even though they may be in their most alert state of mind ever. That’s what power of mind is. I can be what I want to be. And somehow the grand notions that come with love make everyone believe that this is an experience that they must have and therefore, bit of attraction coupled with some sweet words is often trigger to “I guess Iam in love” syndrome…but it’s not that simple. Because people just don’t mistake themselves to be in love, they convince themselves that they are. And therefore they enjoy the state just like someone actually in love would or feel the pain of break up in exactly the same way. They have to, they must feel the pain or feel happy because how else will they feel convinced that they are/were in love.
Is it good or bad? Well, I don’t know. Am not sitting here and passing a judgment. All am trying to say is that while God might have created love so that people just chance upon it and fall in love, we are just pushing ourselves to take a fall…..if falling is still fun…Good Luck !!!
-sid
Song recommendation of the day:
Just keeping with the mood, here’s this beautiful song from Jogger’s Park
Ishq hota nahin, sabhi ke liye…
Ye bana hain, ye bana hain…..kisi kisi ke liye…………
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