Can people be classified depending on their behaviour?...like should we form opinions that someone is a outgoing guy, someone else is a snob, this third guys is so carefree and other your colleague in office is just so happy-go lucky.

These perceptions are based on our opinions, opinions we make through our interactions - but catch is - do we spare a moment and wonder if human beings so uni-dimensional ?

Can someone just be happy soul always ? Would he not get hurt, get sad, get disappointed ever?

Would someone always like to have people around? Would he never want a moment of silence?

Why everybody has to be like this or that.

Why I need to identify him or her with some specific emotion and not all the emotions.

Why do we fail to understand that he is just like me , with his moods defining his moments.

We form opinions based on our interactions and then club a person on the basis of that perception. What we don't see that in our interactions that person is reacting to me. So if he is like what he is , it is because i am like what i am.

Our eyes always look out, they always see people around me but never at look at my own self.

We are like those men in that story who crossed a river and when they reached the other end they decided to take a count to see if everyone has crossed safely. But every time they count there was one man short coz they each guy forgot to count himself.

And when we wud have read the story , we wud have wondered who cud be such a fool. But ain't all of us are just like that. We judge a person on how he reacts to 'us' but we conveniently forget the 'us' part, we forget that his actions are actually a reaction.

I might think some guy is aloof but forget that He is so because I couldn't build a bridge to make him open up.

I might think someone is just plain short tempered but i don't bother to check what do i do that make the other guy lose the temper when with me.

And then lot of times we just get too centered on us. Coz i wanna react to a certain situation in a particular way, everyone else should do the same and if they don't well then i wud make unfounded opinions about them.

If I wanna party so everyone else shud or else they are bores.

If I liked a painting, everyone else should or they don't have an eye for art.

If I found a joke funny, every one else should or else they don't have a sense of humour.

So either we forget 'I' completely or just can't forget the 'I' but our interactions somehow swing to these extremes and never balance out.

Somewhere, we forget that a we can never tell what a person actually is like, we can just say what he is like with me. We forget that I is central to hIm. That other's behaviour is as much a reflection of their being as it is of mine.

-sid